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disclaimer: this is not a rant about my husband. it is simply a collection of thoughts on modesty and creepers.

are all men perverts? is it possible to smile or be friendly with a man, and not have kindness be mistaken for flirting or a proposal to sleep together?

which brings me to another point. it's not always the men's fault. men are designed to be attracted to women. plain and simple. you can't be a thread away from nudity and not expect a man to not have sexual thoughts. (double negatives can be so confusing).

i'll admit that, as a woman, i sometimes feel a bit of a competitive urge when it comes to my clothing and appearance. i want to feel hot when i'm out in public. i am from texas, and i do like the sun, but, by hot, i mean sexy. <--check all="" commas.="" out="" p="" those="">

what many girls/women do not realize and i am having to constantly remind myself of is that, even though their choice in clothing may have gotten the attention of their prime target (aka "mr. right" or, in my case, my husband), it usually also gets the attention of mr. wrong and mr. way wrong, too.

i'm sure you can think back to at least one time in your life, where another girl got more attention because she was wearing less. remember the way it made you feel to have your man look at another woman that way next time you are getting dressed. you may be causing someone's husband, daddy, brother, or son to sin! you are hurting someone's wife, daughter, or sister!

there are certainly things that a mother should just not wear (partly because it just doesn't look as good as it did pre-baby), but also because she is a mother. we need to set examples for our daughters, who are living in a society where they are constantly being bombarded by sex. i want my girls to know that they can be beautiful without being "sexy." and i certainly do not want the boys getting any wild ideas. remember the padded bikinis for girls at abercrombie&fitch last year? never. in. my. life. don't even ask me about some of the stuff i've seen people put on their babies. well, maybe ask a little. two words. high heels. yes, for babies. don't believe me? check it out. need another example? bikinis for babies.

i'm not exactly sure where i'm going with all of this. all i know is that it isn't fair to anyone involved when a woman wears revealing clothing. it's like inviting an alcoholic to a wine-tasting party. it just isn't fair to the few good men out there who actually do try to guard their eyes, and it isn't fair to the women married to the men who don't. remember, you're not just catching the eye of prince charming. there are a lot of fat, old, disgusting perverts, creepers, pedophiles, and rapists watching you and your babies, too.